live the moment couple example"s

Live the moment ….

Start with looking or playing with children best example.they don’t care about nothing more then living the moment. first they are power rangers 10min later you see them screaming they are supermen they live as they mood change. If some one says some thing bad they will cry or if they hurt them self they will cry also but after  5-6minutes they back in the play ground running a round enjoying life. He has no carries about yesterday no worries to future just living the moment some times we have to live the moment also to be happy.

My dog   yokshire angelow my babygirl watching her while she think she is a lion trying to attack germen shapper or golden. Going on the grass trying to catch lizards. When iam sad he comes next to me and just watchs me when my mood change to happy he is happy ready to play.i know he dont think about what food i gave him in the morning or i will give in night doesnt care or think about it . dogs are live the moment so try to be like them.

How can we get a wonderful life ?

Iam gonna mix it up jump from one to one lets start:

Saving is great, but to make the most of your money you need to put it to work. Good investments can be the difference between retiring it can take your ritirment age to 40s or 50s. What do i mean from this is if a person starts investing in his 20s just the between 15 % and 20% their income the inrerst they earn will be equal to their current salary when they reah there 40s so they can drop out retire without a drop income. It will  be devoting more attention to wonderfull life. Having more time to travel than your friends while u  are in the same age you will have more income wichleads to more money that you can spend so it will take you couple step from your friends.

The most importand point is to educate your self we need to continuos growth to be happy. The best way goes from education well don’t take me wrong iam not saying study every day finish couple college etc iam not talking nothing about that. Self education can be any thing that takes you out of your zone. The most important part is to keep a clean and open mind. That’s is ready to search and enjoy while you doing…also it will take to more important and interesting person…

Do any thing you want starting from a job do what makes you happy meaning wise even if your life isn’t great excellent after a surten time it will be better not at the point but if you do the job you love you will come to best place at your work.we cant control everthing in our lifes maybe but choosing our work is in our hands every day you will wake up to do something you like which makes you happy…

Stay in shape work out you only get one body once its been ruined there is much you can do.stay a way from unhealthy food do exercise maybe it will be so hard but don’t give up you will see the advantages in your olders lifes.

Come to your self forget about pass get to the moment look at around you what you doing ? who is around you ? what have you done ? maybe we can not change our pass what happens is happens nothing to about it so what pick your self together and look to the future what can you do ? how is my friends are effecting me ? and make a plane to the future and start sticking up to the plan.

Listen to music you love dance if you like STOP woriying about what people will think. Specially listen music in car it will take your temputure down while in traffic. ;isten to music while taking a bath before you sleep it will come you down.

Spend more time with the people who loves you … you will see what iam trying to say

if you have time you should listen to link iam posting i find it usefull for my self and i thought
it will catch your attention aslooo


its about feellings
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ueint8f8WPw


this one is more longer but its a training course it will help about life Marshall ROSENBERG is amazing thank you Giuseppe TOTINO for your advice

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EfaKIhtR3ro

İ think i lead a positive life but not exactly. İ mean a positive life is necessarry for everybody but there are some barriers which prevent you from living positively. Health, family, peace, a good job, money , friendship are important things to me however you can't have all of them going on well at the same time. For example, some time you can have problems with your family , in another time you can be in trouble with monatery matters.So all these can lead you to have not a positive but a problematic life.Even if i am rich and healty in body , i have some psycholofical problems that prevent from leading me a pure positive life.Losing somebody who is quite important to me influenced me so deeply that i couldnt handle it by myself but with pills. May be it would not be a big matter to some other people but as to me it's very depressing. İ think everybody has some problems which are prominent for their life. Everyone needs to have a positive life but in order to have it , they need to fullfil all biological, pyschological, social needs in a certain amount. But if there is no fullfillment in these needs , we should create a positive thought that is to say we should search good in bad. İt is not a very easy thing to do however if your life hit the bottom then you should know how to pull it to the top. And all this ends up in your brain.if you cant do it, nobody else will do it for you. Your own brain is the only alternative for this massive change. Therefore believing to have a positive life most probably is the starting point of having a real positive life.But of course there are some alternatives which can turn your negative life into a positive one.,some small changes in life can even help you have progress in this process. For example,you can start with concantrating on what you want and ignore what you dont want. İf you want to be a teacher, be a teacher not a lawyer. Namely, a person cant find happiness in what he doesnt want to be. So one should live as to her/ his own interests, not to the others'. You should also keep your mind and body active in order to reach a positive life.if you dont feel comfortable with your own look, you wil lose self respect and confidence which will lead you to think in a negative way. Or when you are mentally busy with something that disturbs you, there is no way for you to have a positive life. These situations which i mentioned above can be barriers for people and for me to live in a positive way. Hence we should keep in mind that we have only one life and there is not another chance for us. Not big changes but only the small ones can even prese t us a better life and terminate the barriers which convict us to live a life that we dont want. 

The no behind the yes may seem very prevalent for life of all people because eveybody has loads of questions in their minds such as: why cant i have a good relationship withothers, why cant i show my true feelings to my beloved, why cant i contradict other people's thoughts, why do i keep having the same negative feeling but cant turn them into positive ones?? So on ...these questions cannot be answered truly since people are afraid of giving up their habituals or they are afraid what they will find beneath them. May be they are scared they they will have new responsibilities . Behind every no , there is this terror of giving up what we know and behind every yes, there is the occurance of the unknown. İ mean what if i say yes to the person who proposes to marry me. And here the huge unknown is on the way because you dont know how much your life is going to change and how it will keep on with that person. What changes await you and what kind of troubles are on the way??this doubt and lack of trust leads you to say no to the prososal however there is of course a great wish to say yes to the beloved whom you adore ..Changes always scare people and having too much unknown keep you saying no to so many things which you would actually say yes if you have some courage. Another example is that people People always follow the track they know and will not put themselves in danger and the ones who do it know they are in the mid of a big shadow.at the end of the shadow they either find happiness or disappointment but one cant know without trying in other words they cant know without saying yes. So a little courage will push t hem to the end of the shadow.therefore instead of no , it is worth trying to accept certain things or else one has to live with those questions above in their minds till the end of their life.by saying no, people just try to hide behind their own excuses , and they dont know how they will repent for why they dont say yes after a certain time. The word '' yes'' is the challenge itself to the life.people would accept that saying yes would be against their fundemantel principles.but they cannot know how great this life and this world can be if they say yes to almost all offers.sometimes, by saying yes, you can overcome your fears and can fly on a plane or sometimes by saying yes, you can start living your ideal life.people can be stuck between their ideals and principles. They cannot decide which one to choose however instead of their ideals , they would rather choose to follow their principles. That' s why they say no but behind that word , there is always a yes because that '' yes'' takes them to their own idesls.

The no behind the yes   may seem very prevalent for life of all people because eveybody has loads of questions in their minds such as: why cant i have a good relationship withothers, why cant i show my true feelings to my beloved, why cant i contradict other people's thoughts, why do i keep having the same negative feeling but cant turn them into positive ones?? So on ...these questions cannot be answered truly since people are afraid of giving up their habituals or they are afraid what they will find beneath them. May be they are scared they they will have new responsibilities . Behind every no , there is this terror of giving up what we know and behind every yes, there is the occurance of the unknown. İ mean what if i say yes to the person who proposes to marry me. And here the huge unknown is on the way because you dont know how much your life is going to change and how it will keep on with that person. What changes await you and what kind of troubles are on the way??this doubt and lack of trust leads you to say no to the prososal however there is of course a great wish to say yes to the beloved whom you adore .Changes always scare people and having too much unknown keep you saying no to so many things which you would actually say yes if you have some courage. People always follow the trac  they know and will not put themselves in danger and the ones who do it know they are in the mid of a big shadow.at the end of the shadow they either find happiness or disappointment but one cant know without trying  in other words they cant know without saying yes. So a little courage will push t hem to the end of the shadow.therefore instead of no , it is worth trying to accept certain things or else one has to live with those questions above in their minds till the end of their life.

İ think i lead a positive life but not exactly. İ mean a positive life is necessarry for everybody but there are some barriers which prevent you from living positively. Health, family, peace, a good job, money , friendship are important things to me however you can't have all of them going on well at the same time. For example, some time you can have problems with your family , in another time you can be in trouble with monatery matters.So all these can lead you to have not a positive but a problematic life.Even if i am rich and healty in body , i have some psycholofical problems that prevent from leading me a pure positive life.Losing somebody who is quite important to me influenced me so deeply that i couldnt handle it by myself but with pills. May be it would not be  a big matter to some other people but as to me it's very depressing. İ think everybody has some problems which are prominent for their life. Everyone needs to have a positive life but in order to have it , they need to fullfil all biological, pyschological, social needs in a certain amount. But if there is no fullfillment in these needs , we should create a positive thought that is to say we should search good in bad. İt is not a very easy thing to do however if your life hit the bottom then you should know how to pull it to the top. And all this ends up in your brain.if you cant do it, nobody else will do it for you. Your own brain is the only alternative for this massive change. Therefore believing to have a positive life most probably is  the starting point of having a real positive life.

Can you think of people who had positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied?

The need is psychological and biological phenomena that arises with a sense of absence and creates an urge for satisfaction. As a part of their nature, human beings have needs and they need to get satisfied to live a happy life. Food, shelter and security were the basic needs in early ages but through all these years changing life conditions brought many other needs. The increase in the number of human needs caused scholars to work on this issue and come up with theories to classify and explain these needs, which go beyond the essentials like food, water, shelter, etc.

Abraham Moslow developed his well-known study, hierarchy of needs including both essential physical and non-physical elements required for human growth and development and also those things humans are naturally driven to at access. Moslow classified needs in a hierarchical order based on their order of obtainment. In other words, Moslow put up a list starting with the first, which deals with the most important needs for survival itself and going upwards with latter needs. As human beings, we are only concerned about attaining higher order needs, when we have lower order needs satisfied. If you think of it as a pyramid, it starts with the basic items of breathing, food, water, and shelter. These are followed by the needs of safety, than love or / belonging, self-esteem and finally self-actualization.[i]

We can simply put needs into two groups; essential to survive needs and non-essential ones. Essentials like breathing, food, and water are necessary for a human to stay alive. On the other hand needs such as entertainment, travelling and listening to music are not compulsory to live but we become happy when those needs are satisfied. As long as the essential needs are satisfied people might have positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied. Besides the order of needs also depends on where you live, how old you are, your gender, social status, career, etc. for instance if you are living in a cold climate, then heating is higher order need compared to somebody living in a hot climate. People living in a developed economy need a car to go to work, do shopping, etc. but it is not so essential in a non-developed country with small towns.  

Jim Carrey once said "I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they would see it wasn't the answer to anything."

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[i] http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm

Can words lead to conflicts? What is conscious communication?

a.       Sit for a moment and think of a time when you have experienced a difficult conversation. What characterized that conversation?

b.      What allows those people to stay connected to their compassionate nature? What role has got language?

Communication is a vital part of our daily lives and it helps us to communicate our feelings, ideas and information to one another. Right from when we are born, we need communication to build the relationships needed to go on with our lives. Rather than a one way process, communication is actually a circular process involving both the person who is sending the message and the one who is supposed to respond. A healthy communication happens when communicated ideas and feelings are perceived by the listener without any confusion or meaning loss. In case of a situation where healthy or conscious communication is not ensured, the process might lead to tension and conflict between different parties.

Sometimes the things you say, actions you take, or even the way you get dressed may actually prevents a conscious communication and cause further problems during a conversation. For instance criticizing and judging creates a feeling of anger and listener might feel like unperceived and aggrieved. Before making assumptions and acting on prejudices you should first let people talk and feel understood. A disagreement is nothing more than two sides who demand to be understood at the same moment. If you set aside your wants and try to center upon on understanding the other person, you will have a chance to prevent conflict.

I once had a difficult conversation with my friends to pick a restaurant for birthday dinner. Two different friends had two suggestions on where to have the dinner. Both had different places in their minds and they were insisting on them. I had to talk them into a common place and finalize the conversation without any conflict. So I tried to backtrack and clarify their criteria to make a decision. As it turned out, each of my friends had highly valued criteria; one is concerned with the location and other one with food. Knowing their criteria made it much easier to come to an agreement on where to have the dinner.

Language and the words you use have a significant effect on your ability to stay connected to your compassionate nature.  Communication that allows you to explain yourself -what you think and feel, and connect with other people actually shapes the way you keep your compassionate nature.

What are human needs and where do they come from?

Can you think of people who had positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied?

The need is psychological and biological phenomena that arises with a sense of absence and creates an urge for satisfaction. As a part of their nature, human beings have needs and they need to get satisfied to live a happy life. Food, shelter and security were the basic needs in early ages but through all these years changing life conditions brought many other needs. The increase in the number of human needs caused scholars to work on this issue and come up with theories to classify and explain these needs, which go beyond the essentials like food, water, shelter, etc.

Abraham Moslow developed his well-known study, hierarchy of needs including both essential physical and non-physical elements required for human growth and development and also those things humans are naturally driven to at access. Moslow classified needs in a hierarchical order based on their order of obtainment. In other words, Moslow put up a list starting with the first, which deals with the most important needs for survival itself and going upwards with latter needs. As human beings, we are only concerned about attaining higher order needs, when we have lower order needs satisfied. If you think of it as a pyramid, it starts with the basic items of breathing, food, water, and shelter. These are followed by the needs of safety, than love or / belonging, self-esteem and finally self-actualization.[i]

We can simply put needs into two groups; essential to survive needs and non-essential ones. Essentials like breathing, food, and water are necessary for a human to stay alive. On the other hand needs such as entertainment, travelling and listening to music are not compulsory to live but we become happy when those needs are satisfied. As long as the essential needs are satisfied people might have positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied. Besides the order of needs also depends on where you live, how old you are, your gender, social status, career, etc. for instance if you are living in a cold climate, then heating is higher order need compared to somebody living in a hot climate. People living in a developed economy need a car to go to work, do shopping, etc. but it is not so essential in a non-developed country with small towns.  

Jim Carrey once said "I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they would see it wasn't the answer to anything."

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[i] http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm

   

What are human needs and where do they come from?

Can you think of people who had positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied?

The need is psychological and biological phenomena that arises with a sense of absence and creates an urge for satisfaction. As a part of their nature, human beings have needs and they need to get satisfied to live a happy life. Food, shelter and security were the basic needs in early ages but through all these years changing life conditions brought many other needs. The increase in the number of human needs caused scholars to work on this issue and come up with theories to classify and explain these needs, which go beyond the essentials like food, water, shelter, etc.

Abraham Moslow developed his well-known study, hierarchy of needs including both essential physical and non-physical elements required for human growth and development and also those things humans are naturally driven to at access. Moslow classified needs in a hierarchical order based on their order of obtainment. In other words, Moslow put up a list starting with the first, which deals with the most important needs for survival itself and going upwards with latter needs. As human beings, we are only concerned about attaining higher order needs, when we have lower order needs satisfied. If you think of it as a pyramid, it starts with the basic items of breathing, food, water, and shelter. These are followed by the needs of safety, than love or / belonging, self-esteem and finally self-actualization.[i]

We can simply put needs into two groups; essential to survive needs and non-essential ones. Essentials like breathing, food, and water are necessary for a human to stay alive. On the other hand needs such as entertainment, travelling and listening to music are not compulsory to live but we become happy when those needs are satisfied. As long as the essential needs are satisfied people might have positive lives without having some of these needs satisfied. Besides the order of needs also depends on where you live, how old you are, your gender, social status, career, etc. for instance if you are living in a cold climate, then heating is higher order need compared to somebody living in a hot climate. People living in a developed economy need a car to go to work, do shopping, etc. but it is not so essential in a non-developed country with small towns.  

Jim Carrey once said "I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they would see it wasn't the answer to anything."

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[i] http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm

Can words lead to conflicts? What is conscious communication?

a.       Sit for a moment and think of a time when you have experienced a difficult conversation. What characterized that conversation?

b.      What allows those people to stay connected to their compassionate nature? What role has got language? 

positive life

What is positive life?

Positive life starts with positive thinking in that way it starts a mental attitude that admits into mid thoughts.  This mostly are images and words.

It is mental attitude that expects good and favorable results.

A positive mind will leads to success joy, happiness, health.

For example

Once upon a time there was a farmer had a beautiful farm, he also had a very beautiful lake near the farm. One fine day he was farming in his field and a stranger passed by, the stranger asked the farmer that have you seen any diamonds recently, the farmer was surprised and asked the stranger what is a diamond?,the stranger was surprised by his question and said the farmer that if you had a diamond as big as your thumb you can buy a whole village and if you have a diamond a big as your fist you can buy the whole city, getting impressed by this the farmer asked the stranger where we can get diamonds the stranger said you can get lots of raw diamonds in Africa.

The farmer then sold all his farm with the lake and went to explore Africa for diamonds leaving his family at stray and alone. Since more then ten years he was searching for diamonds but he was not able to find anything, but as the farmer sold his farm to the other farmer, the other farmer was sitting beside the lake and saw a very shinny substance, he picked it up & it was a diamond big as his thumb, he took it & kept it as a showpiece in his house.

One fine day that stranger again came to same farm and saw a diamond in that other farmers home and asked that did that first farmer found this diamond, the second farmer said no that farmer sold this farm to me and I found this stone near the lake and the second farmer realized that the stone he found is a diamond and it was one of the most precious and expensive stones of the world.

The moral of the story is- THERE ARE MANY OPPORTUNITIES VERY NEAR TO US BUT WE TEND TO SEE THE OPPORTUNITIES ON OUR OPPOSITE SIDE

2nd Story

There were twin brothers one brother used to hit his wife and children, he used to drink and had a criminal record but the second brother had a very happy family he never abused anyone was very happy with his family and had a great job.

Once the lawyer sat with both and asked the first brother that why does he take drugs and abuse family?, He said what else he is supposed to do? His father did the same to us, he used to hit us and our mother and abuse us, thats why I am doing the same, then the lawyer asked the second brother that what makes you so happy being with family,he said my father used to hit us and abuse us, so I decided I should not do this ever to my family that why I never hit anyone nor abuse.

The moral of the story is- Both had the same driving energy their FATHER but one took it in a negative way and other in a positive way

So we have to always keep thinking positive which will help to grow our personality and a positive attitude.

In the life we living our mind has to be open as we see from the example everything straight and keep our mind through positive  to do this we should

1 stop thinking what other people will think

2 use imagination

3 smile or keep up the positivity

4 once negative thought enters mind we have to beat it and turn it to positive

5 keep a daily thoughts with the circumstances that create from if you feel bad write it down your emotions in this way you can tell the negative which pass up.

After you mentaigamine. Imagine more if you have a fight with a friend come down and think her as a child which needs a hug will help.

To think in long term start asking why why I am tinking negative? How can I get iver it? Are you scared? Scared to lose your job? Scared to lose a friend. Once you face the worst than it will be much easier to put your had to positive mind.

Use of vocab you use try to minimize can not, what will happen if it is hard

You will not be happy if you spend most of your time doing stuff that you don’t like

Don’t take tiny problems and make them like its end of the world

More meaning you see in life will lead to more happier life

Following some of the notes I meantion I believe we can all be happy and think more positive wich again will lead to beutifull life that we dream off

And couple quots about positive life

The differences between can and cannot are only three letters.three letters than determine your lifes directions.

Clear thought produce clear result.

when we start from the  beginning of this course, looking at the key assumptions and intentions of nvc
1 all human beings share the same needs.when we look at it all human beings have the same needs but they express it differently.
2 our world offers sufficient resources for meeting everyone's basic needs
3 all actions are attempts to meet needs.
4 feelings point to need being met or unmet
5.all human beings have the capacity for compassion.
6human beings enjoy giving .
7human beings meet needs through interdependent relationships.
8 human beings change.
9 choice is internal .
10 the most direct path to peace  is through self connection.

if we understand the meaning of all these key assumptions we can have connections with other people much easier.however  we should not only  perceive them but also help other people to understand them so that they are able to communicate with each other easier and better.
  ''aT THE ROOT OF THE VIOLENCE IS ALWAYS A LACK Of vocabulary''  from this  quotation of Gilles Charest  we can state that if people are unable to communicate with each other, the amount of violence among people can more and more increase.Hence if poeple want to reduce or terminate violence in the world ,  they should know how to commun'cate.

''the limits of my language are the limits of my world'' from the quotation of Ludwig  Wittgenstein we can perceive that everyone can express themselves in certain ways and people's way of expression show how they are able to communicate with other people and how they are able to interact with the world .

in the summer school i had to take a management class so management for 450  was the only one available.so without looking at the course information at the add drop time  i took the class.i had doubt of this class  because most of the management class are boring but i was wrong.even from the first lecture we had,i was amazed with the course details . during my school life only a few times i sat at the front of the class and i participated the course.the things  we learned in the class so got me that i got more and more interested in the course.the papers that the instructer gave us to read , and the videos we watched were so interesting and different.and i have to say the teacher's self confidence ,his way of explaining things and thoughts were fabulous and his point of view was so amazing that it inspired me very much. i missed some class because of some problems and for the first time i was so sorry to miss the class.if you read the course description it says this course is a most for those who want to go beyond technique to discover how to beat their best on the work place and connect with the best of other.the course is not a typical one .if i had known it earlier i wouldn't have had so much prejudice.